With Christmas right around the corner – It is inevitable to not be thinking about gifts. Thinking about gifts you are going to get people, and gifts you would like to receive.
There is a book that is infamous in Christian Circles called The 5 Love Languages. To be honest with you, I have never even read the book. However, I have had so many people explain it to me that I feel like I have read it (maybe I should haha).
Anyway – long story short – it says that everyone had 1 of 5 love languages or some combination. It is the core way people receive and give love.
Through many conversations – it’s been discovered that I receive love through gifts and words of affirmation and I also give love through gifts and words of affirmation.
You can visit their website and see what your love language is:
Anyway – regarding gifts – it says:
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.
My husband laughs about how much effort goes into the gifts I buy people. I will often buy and return multiple gifts till I find just the right one. This also plays into my “Words of affirmation” because I love when someone says “Wow, I love this!” I feel like I’ve completely won at life.
I was praying this morning about this – because I was wondering why it was so important to me. I all of a sudden remembered a memory from when I was six years old and it was Christmas. We were at my nana’s house (My nana was the woman that adopted my mom when she was little). It was Christmas eve and myself and my cousins got to open gifts from Nana. The house was filled with anticipation and excitement. We opened the gifts and my cousin Jana and I got the exact same gifts – two dolls and pillow pals. We were both so excited about our gifts. Then my nana called my cousin into another room and she gave her one of those electric cars for kids. I wasn’t meant to see that she received this gift, but I did. That was the first time I didn’t openly express emotion. I remember holding back tears as I thought “I guess I’m not as loved.” As soon as I got into the car with my mom, I burst into tears. My mom was the absolute best person in the world at loving me (and the best gift giver ever) – and she embraced me and just explained to me that it was wrong what Nana did.
This morning I chose to forgive my nana – forgive her for making me feel like I wasn’t loved. As I spent time with God this morning I just thought about how absolutely amazing He is. Several times throughout the week – I receive small gifts in the mail. Sometimes through my blog, sometimes just randomly sent. There has never been ONE instant where I am not filled with absolute joy when I receive these gifts and I always am so thankful to God. I sometimes feel guilty that my love language is gifts – that I should have one that is less materialistic. However, it never has actually been about what the item is – it’s the thought. I just love that I serve a God that cares about my love language. It seems silly but I just was filled with so much love this morning as I recounted the endless times God has surprised me, and continues to do so.
So, on that note – I really can’t wait to give gifts to my family + friends this week! I hope you feel loved this holiday season!